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[06.9.26]Act on a whim, I just wanna write these sentiments down.
I do believe that there are two times for an adult to be weaned in his life.
The first time is when you are still an inocent kid , you were not bothered by anything but your own feeling. Selfish may be the best description of that stage .You never consider about the reasons why they do that to you. Instead, crying out noisely and wantonly is your best weapon to get them back.As time goes by, you seem to forget the taste of lactation from mum gradually and unconsciously. So that you achieved the original step to grow up without a lot of pain. You adopt the way to cry out in front of people without a little bit consideration, the key is that you are just a kid ,a kid living carless and unstressful life. Crying in public is children's prerogative . Suffering temporately and maintaining happy later is the typical of the first ablactation.
The second one is when you are adult and determined to leave your parents . Live your own life. Compared with the first experience, it's much suffering and under much pressure. You can not cease off your vexation by crying out in pubic or in front of your parents, can you? You can't ! Are you a kid? It must be the original and direct reaction to your real behavior from others. Who would like to be addressed as a kid when you are over that standard illegal age? For being named in that way, it' more likely to say you are incompetent and be sorted out on the list of the weak in society. Due to that, nowdays people would rather hide their weak aspect and show the strong one apparently to others. Showing " happiness" to others except your parents proves that you are a success in society and have already gained yourself a decent status . Consequently you win the applause and admiration from others,then you are satisfied. Your vanity has achieved from those wiles. It's the nature of human being. Showing "happiness" to your parents , compared with the former one ,it's less artificial and full of purity . This performance is the symbol of a mature mind as a real adult. We have already known how to cherish the love from significant others, how to share your beloved ones' unhappiness ,how to be strong when they get a meltdown, of course , to show your untrue "happiness"to the beloved ones makes sense then . It's the power of love, isn't it?
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